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Catching Up, and Judgment

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B—Well, I have been unfaithful lately in getting Heaven’s messages out on this site. I resolve to do better. I have been told not to edit—that is to make decisions about which messages to post and which ones not to post. You will be getting all the stuff now. :)) Some of what you read will be my conversations or questions or just my journaling/musings. I will follow the guidance to post and may Spirit (God) speak to you through whatever you are reading. As always I encourage you to comment or email me with any questions you may have. Blessings today! Barbara

Nothing is as we think it is. We have mental constructs—ideas given to us long ago when we were small—that we cling to, believing that what we have been told is reality, when actually everything that we THINK is real is a part of the dream, or the play, (God and) we have created in order to experience the physical world. I play the roles of wife, mother, sister, teacher, grandmother, aunt, etc. and these have been marvelous, incredible, sometimes difficult, amazing, and fun. But I know that the true I, my true Self, is much more than these.

I am told that if it comes from our thinking MINDS it is a dream. For instance, what about RIGHT and WRONG? These are a mental constructs that cause us to believe or think or judge certain things or people in the world. In another age, another culture, the ideas we have been given about what is right and wrong could be just the opposite.

So Yusef, how do we live without the “guidelines” of rightness and wrongness for instance? How can we tell what is true?

Yusef: Let go—of all you have learned about rightness and wrongness. Let go of JUDGING EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE. Begin to see the world as is IS. Look through the eyes of LOVE and COMPASSION and you will begin to see differently. Without judgment God can be present. 

B—This  could take a lifetime.

Y—We  understand. (Smile)

Guidance From Yusef: Thoughts for a New Year

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Hi to All, The following is a compilation of guidance from Yusef and my own additions. Enjoy!

Thoughts for a New Year

Love yourself. Be kind to yourself. It makes it easier to love and be kind to others.

Judge no one. We cannot know God’s plan for others, or the reason their souls chose to incarnate at this time and in this place. Accept them. Help them. Love them. Pray for them. It’s good for your soul, too.

Do not judge yourself. Notice your thoughts, words, and actions—without judgment. Then decide whether to keep them or change them. They are yours after all.

Judge no circumstance or situation. Look for the blessing, the joy, the opportunity, or the lesson. Give thanks for all.

Pay attention to your vibration (the state of your being). Notice how you, and your body, react to people or situations in your life. If you do not resonate with them, you may want to make changes…in yourself or in your situations.

You create your life through the choices you make. Be aware! Make conscious choices—the power is yours. Do not give others power over your life.

You have the truth within you. It may reveal itself in prayer/meditation, through what you read, or what you watch, or through a spiritual companion. You recognize it as truth because you knew it first. Look inward—God is there.

Your human nature is a “story,” created by your soul and God for this lifetime. You are not your story. You are a divine and limitless being—a child of God—the Source of Life and Love. Remember this.

Spend time in silence this year. Just sit with God.

Send love and light to all you encounter. You will bless them, and your Light will balance the fear so present in the world today.

Do not limit the Holy Spirit, who continues to reveal God to you, and to the world. Stay open.

Guidance From Yusef: Perception Can Be Tricky

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We are cautioned about our perceptions today. The current meme is “What we perceive, we believe.” Well, that’s a bit scary since our perceptions are not necessarily based on reality. And we so easily believe what our perceptions tell us.

For example, when we watch news footage of acts of terror in another country our emotions may cause us to perceive that WE are in imminent danger also. The response is fear for our own safety. That perception—that we are in danger—may then influence all of our emotions and actions and predictably cause us (unnecessary) stress. I like the quote from Michel De Montaigne who lived in the 16th century and said, “My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened.” Today we are told that 80-85% of what we fear never happens. Good to remember.

Or we may make judgments about a person based on incorrect perceptions from our senses (what we see or hear) that seem real, but those perceptions later prove to be wrong.

The heavens are telling us to be cautious and to question our perceptions, judgments, and  beliefs. Are they real? Or are they generated from fear? Fear that may or may not be realized.

YUSEF: Become aware of your perceptions. Perceptions are based on information/data [that is] collected over time through [your] experience. That experience is filtered through a belief system that has its own vision and tradition. It is not reality.

Therefore, judge nothing. Question everything. Do not attach to, or identify with the ideas of the world. These will mislead [you].

Go calmly instead, trusting the guidance of the Angels and Spirits. What you cannot perceive through the senses often has more validity than the senses. Trust these [senses] not; all information coming in from the senses is filtered through the biases [you were] taught [from a young age]. Do not succumb to fear. Do not judge. Trust. 

 

Guidance From Yusef: On Being Holy

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I found this communication, though short, to be interesting. When we think of someone who is ‘holy,’ or close to God, we may picture that person as prayerful, or perhaps even serene. We may assume that they are always peaceful, never angry or frustrated, and always loving toward others. As humans we make assumptions and assign labels in our judgment of others, and so I asked Yusef about what it means to be ‘holy’.

YUSEF:

We are laughing, as you say. What is this term HOLY? What meaning has it? There is no such concept in the Heavens.

The aspect, or aura, of one in CONNECTION to the ALL, one who has transcended the ego, may appear to be different from, or in a different state than others. That could be an accurate assessment. Yet the ‘holy’ label—the assumption that one in communion with the ALL must assume a pose or an action, or behave in predictable ways based on set expectations from those gone before [Saints ?] is absurd. None can know what is transpiring in the human heart or soul.

BE who you are in the Oneness and all else will follow. Let go of the false assumptions and limits of “holy.”

Guidance From Yusef: 8 Things I Know About Judgment

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Barbara

First a Note: Judging others or events in our lives as good or bad, right or wrong, appropriate or inappropriate, holy or unholy, safe or unsafe seems to come naturally to us. A few examples of this judgment are: blaming, anger, disdain, eye rolling, shaming, name calling, or insisting that my religion, my country, and my ideas are the only right ones.

8 THINGS I KNOW ABOUT JUDGMENT

#1 I know we are taught (is conditioned too strong a word?) to judge. We are taught by well-meaning parents, family, religion, culture, and society to judge anything that is different from the rules and norms they  have passed on to us. We learn to “see” the world through the lenses they give us. And we learn the lessons well.

#2 I know that we judge so easily because judgment comes naturally to our human ego. The ego is that voice inside that reminds us to stay within the boundaries we’ve been given. It says that if others don’t look, think, dress, believe, worship, or act like us we must be wary of them. The ego also judges us—as not competent, unworthy, or unlovable, or even as better than everyone else.

#3 I know that we don’t see the world as IT IS. We don’t see the world as it really is—as if we were looking through the non-judgmental lens of a video camera capturing a scene. Instead we see the world through the lens of our biases. We think the way we see the world is the right way. We don’t question whether our biases are correct, or even notice that we’re judging others.

#4 I know that we judge the world as potentially dangerous. Taught to judge the world as potentially dangerous, we take measures to protect ourselves and our property. We have locks, guards, alarm systems, and passwords. We carry arms and secure our borders. These actions further isolate us from each other.

#5 I know that judgment comes from fear. Judgment points to our fears about something—safety, security, belonging, criticism, self-esteem, abandonment, and so on. We judge automatically and without thinking—and we’re not even aware that we carry these fears deep down. Most of our fears however, are much worse than the actual events in our lives. Often what we fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.

#6 I know that judgment and love cannot exist in the same moment. If we are passing judgment on another person, no matter how slight, we cannot be loving them in the same moment. Judgment is the opposite of acceptance, appreciation, and love. It separates us from one another. We judge without acknowledging that everyone has their own reason for what they do.

#7 I know there are ways to re-program our automatic judgmental reactions! It IS possible to change our learned judgmental responses. There are steps we can take to become more aware of the biases we hold. We can move from judgment to understanding, and from fear to trust. We can begin to see that we’re all in this together and there truly is goodness in the world.

#8 I know that what we put out into the world we will get back from the world. If we are fearful, judgmental, and see others as threatening, we will react in ways that will threaten them. As long as humanity continues to judge in fear there will be unhappiness, war, terrorism, violence, and turmoil in the world. When we learn to come together in trust rather than judgment we will have the potential for a peaceful planet.

 

Note 2: Please be assured that I  know there are valid reasons to feel fear and determine a situation as dangerous. We have natural instincts that alert us when we, or those we love, are threatened with bodily harm, whether it be from a speeding car, a growling dog, while driving on an ice covered street, or from a person threatening us with a weapon. In these situations we revert to our instinctive responses to survive. But these life situations are not judged as good or bad, fair or unfair—they just are. So listen to that inner alarm and call 911, don’t go near the dog, and be careful on that slippery ice!